I might have a problematic relationship with porn: how do i know?

A: If you’re asking the question then the bad news is: you do. The good news is that every passing moment is another chance to turn it all around, so, if you start now towards getting unhooked, and put in some effort, then: freedom awaits.

You might then ask, how do you (Oliver) know my porn use is unhealthy / problematic?

A: Because ALL porn use is -imj- unhealthy and problematic. There is an article called ‘all the ways porn messes us up’, which lays this out in more granular detail, but a couple of reasons off the top of my head are: 

Masturbating to porn requires me to live in fantasy connection to two-dimensional images that are nothing to do with me AS THOUGH THEY WERE. This requires dissociation from myself, my feelings, and my reality. Doing this diminishes me. There can be no pride in using porn.

Using porn only requires my eyes, brain, and genitals: it is a profoundly heartless experience. Porn can be very pleasurable, but it can never be joyous.

Using porn is inherently unsatisfying, as it does not satiate our need for intimate human connection.

I don’t think it’s possible for us to use porn (for masturbatory purposes) without harming ourselves.

The great news is that; if you reading this - or anyone for that matter- is contemplating that their porn use could be problematic; then you/anyone has already overcome the greatest barrier to change: that of pride and wanting to be seen to be ‘in control of’ their porn use. Many people would rather die than admit weakness - especially guys, especially in a social context.